Sometimes I wonder how I’m going to achieve what I have dreamed. I worry about finding the money, creating the opportunities to bring my vision into reality. How am I going to generate the networks? How can I build the audience that loves my message and wants to benefit from what I have to share? Do you find your self posing these questions about your own journey? If so, please read on as this may be useful to you.
Simon Sinek talks about the three circles of how leaders inspire action: ‘why’, ‘what’ and ‘how’. As passionate creators who want to make a difference, people with a message get what Ben Tristem calls ‘mad how’s disease’. We obsess about how we are going to achieve our goals without deeply considering the ‘why’ and the ‘what’, the source of our drive and the manner in which we share it with the world. I have spent years working out my ‘why’ and my ‘what’. I want to know ‘HOW!’
For those of you interested, my ‘why’ is simply to bring people to their fullest potential, the on- going process of growth and development that keeps driving people to ask ‘Is there more to life and my self than this?’ Through embodiment, mental and physical awareness (both rational and intuitive) as well as a connection to your soul I believe you travel on an unending spiral of maturity and understanding that brings you closer to your answer to this question. This has driven me on my journey to connect with the mysteries of life and led me to encourage others through one- on- one sessions, workshops and weekend retreats.
Recently, in a state of frustration over how we are ever going to achieve our master plans, I committed Emma (my partner) and I to a Sunday afternoon brainstorming session. Bravely we stuck at it for a while getting progressively more despondent and bogged down in facts and details without any flashes of inspiration or the lightness that so often comes with sessions such as these. In the end it was Emma who said ‘Perhaps we just have to hold the vision in our minds and have that be enough for now until things become clearer?’ Instantly, the weight lifted and the joy of our lives’ works returned.
In her flash of insight she made me realise that the ‘how’ comes in stages and often in unexpected ways. The journey is convoluted, making it exciting, frustrating, educational, inspiring, insightful and so much more at different times. To know the whole plan is an illusion or the insistent delusion of a control freak. To hold the plan gently and consistently in the mind keeps the intuition awake for any possibilities that the mind can work with to create action and results in the knowledge that one is in fact far less in control than one imagines.
One of the spin offs of Emma’s insight was to create a vision board. It is a work in progress and every time I look at what is already on the board I am reminded of my commitments, desires and dreams. I notice that I think about the vision more and I make the connections to that vision when events and opportunities present themselves. The ‘how’ becomes clearer daily as I grow and develop along my ever moving path.
So this blog is a thank you to Emma and her insight which greatly helped me and us both. I hope you are reminded of her wisdom the next time the frustration gets the better of you when you insist on answers more concrete than the present allows. Stay focussed on your dreams, most importantly know your ‘why’, be clear about your ‘what’ and the ‘how’?…… Well, let that unfold.
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