Do you feel that asking for help and support shows a sign of weakness and that you are cheating in some way?
Do you think that if you want to achieve something you have to do it alone?
Do you find that when you do attempt to do it alone that it is stressful and hard work and often is not that much fun?
The Power of Connection
If the above questions sound like you then let me assure you- you are not alone. For many years I had that attitude and it is only recently that I have changed my view and reached out for support, guidance and help.
For me, the sense of weakness came from not knowing the answers- that I should be able to work it out! And the sense of cheating came from an assumption that it had to be hard and harsh before it would feel like a success and accomplishment.
In truth, why should you know the answers? You know your questions which point to the gaps in your knowledge. If you do not have the experience, why would you know the answers, what to do next and what direction to take? You wouldn’t- and someone with more experience in that area may have a better idea and be willing to point you in the right direction. With that new information you have answers to your questions and those answers will lead to the next step along your way to exploring your full potential. Finding the answers to your questions is the key- whether you do it alone or ask advice from others, discovering the answers is the driver.
And why should it be stressful?
Why, it could be fun?
It could be the chance to: create strong working and/ or personal relationships; build a network of like- minded people who can benefit from your willingness to reach out and learn; learn more and learn it faster if you reached out to the experts and the more experienced; discover the people who are happy to give their time freely without charge if only we would reach out.
Never before have we had resources at our fingertips on the Internet and other media to discover the work and experience of others and learn from them. There are times when you really are walking the road that no one has walked before- and then perhaps it is time to stride out and forge the way, leading others with the power and confidence of your experience.
Over to you
What are your experiences of going it alone? How do you feel about reaching out? What works for you and what doesn’t work…… I’d love to hear from you and in so doing build a community of people who support each other in their path to discovering and fulfilling their full potential.
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